The Good Wife: What is Good?

There is a television show called “The Good Wife.” I’ve never seen it, but I did google it. It’s about a woman who goes back to work as a litigator for a law firm after her husband, a former state attorney, was publicly humiliated in a sex scandal and thrown behind bars for corruption. I suppose she is considered good because she chooses to step up after her life has been devastated.

Lately, the phrase “The Good Wife” has been rolling around in my spirit. A “good” person is a term that often refers to the person who makes right choices and does the right things. No one is perfect but God alone, but most of us, especially of the household of faith, want to be good and do good. Hopefully we are aware that any goodness comes from being placed in a righteous position with our Good Father through Jesus Christ.

Good is also an adjective of someone who is qualified for a position. When someone dates a person, there is an attraction; but when someone marries a person, it is because they think that person is a good choice for the role of a spouse. We believe that person has qualities to be a good wife or husband, a good companion, a good co-parent, a good financial contributor, a good home manager, and a good person. That person is approved for our standards as a partner in life, someone that will make life pleasant and beneficial. That person is someone we desire to do life with, a good choice.

For the next several weeks, I believe the Lord will have me share about His idea of what a “good” wife is. These entries will not be about being the perfect wife, because that does not exist – neither does the perfect husband. Personally, I’ve had my good moments and my not-so-good moments; I’ve even had some bad moments. Maybe you feel like you could improve as a wife, or maybe you feel like you’ve failed as a wife.  I have good news – “The Good Wife” is the woman who wants to learn what God defines as “good” and allows God to equip and empower her to be and do and have His best for her life.

My perspective of “The Good Wife” will come from scripture, not from culture. Number one, the world’s standard of good and God’s standard of good are two different things. The Bible and the world will always be different. If we compare our generation to the Bible, thinking the Bible is outdated, we have negated the power of the Gospel. Number two, the idea that society is evolving from generation to generation is not necessarily true in every aspect of development. Sure, we’ve built on the knowledge, experience, and hard work of a previous generation to where our technology has gone farther than ever before, our medical treatments are more advanced, and some political liberties have been won. However, goodness is dependent on the condition of the heart, and morally, goodness comes from God, not evolution. Number three, scripture and religion are not the same thing. Religion is a term I use to describe the human being’s attempt to dominate someone else using guilt, shame, and fear. The enemy has used religion to try to squash, hold back, and hold down half of God’s kingdom through manipulative, controlling, religious teaching and rules for God’s women. Some religious leaders have even gone to an extreme of misusing and abusing God’s daughters in God’s house. So to the Bible we go, not to the world, not to our society or generation, and not to religion. Please join me on this journey and let’s grow together!


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20 Ways to Overcome Holiday Stress


Holidays can be stressful. We weren’t made for stress. Stress is harmful to us. It negatively affects us physically, mentally, emotionally, and behaviorally. It can overwhelm our personal wellbeing and strain our relationships. Christmas is meant to be a time for joy, peace on earth, goodwill to men, but because of stress, Christmas can be a time for fretting, fighting, and fatigue. To get the most out of Christmas, we need to avoid stress.

Here are 20 tips for avoiding holiday stress:

  1. It’s okay to say “no.” Don’t pressure yourself or others to do EVERYTHING.
  2. Start your day looking to God. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you for what to do and how to do it.
  3. Grieving a loss can sneak up on us without us knowing it. Take time to feel. Let God go there are comfort you.
  4. Live within your means. If you can’t afford gifts, limit spending.
  5. Respect traditions – don’t be bound by them. Enjoying Jesus is more important than the pressure of performing.
  6. Communicate stress with loved ones. If there are any cracks, you don’t want the pressure to break you to pieces.
  7. Initially plan alone time and guard it.
  8. If you eat some sugar, choose wisely. Sugar is poison to our body and mind and will wear us out.
  9. Physical activity is a great way to release pressure.
  10. There is nothing better than soaking your spirit with God’s presence.
  11. Are you laughing? Laughing relieves tension. Get around a funny friend. Get around kids. Watch a comedy.
  12. Too much work and no play builds up tension. Get around people and have some fun.
  13. If crowds stress you, shop online or go to stores during slow hours.
  14. Too much Christmas? It’s okay. Take a day and do something not Christmasy.
  15. If you are married, make sure you are getting under the mistletoe. Enough said.
  16. Make Christmas your own. Don’t set unrealistic expectations. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  17. Bump projects. If a task doesn’t have to be done this year, can you bump it to after the holidays?
  18. Inward focus is like an emotional log jam. Giving has joy; it’s good for the giver.
  19. Stress turns emotions up, so get your heart in control of your soul. Keep any drama under.
  20. Get your full sleep. If the body doesn’t rejuvenate, stress is inevitable. A good Christmas means rest!

I hope these are helpful tips for you to overcome holiday stress and enjoy the Christmas season!

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You Can’t Put the Devil in his Place Until You Get Into Yours

We need to know who we are in Christ Jesus.

  1. We need more than an intellectual understanding. We need a spiritual understanding.
  2. It’s the Holy Spirit that uncovers spiritual mysteries to the humble in heart.
  3. God wants us to experience a rushing of His love and a flood of His power.

We need to put the devil in his place.

  1. The devil is defeated because Jesus whooped Him through the cross and resurrection.
  2. When we yielded to Christ, our union placed us in position with Christ in God.
  3. Jesus delegated His authority to us. God, in all His power, backs up the name of Jesus.
  4. As we continue to yield to Christ, we take our place of authority and take action.

In Jesus, we always win!

I Corinthians 15:57 “But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.”

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When God Leads Us Through Leaders

Here I am – boxes on boxes stacked around me. Most of our things are being prepared to be moved into storage, and I have to be moved out in three weeks.

Recently my husband approached me with an idea, “I think it’s time to sell the house.” Selling the house was not something I was thinking about, but I checked my heart, and I sensed the Holy Spirit confirming it was the right thing to do. When Jerry knew I was in agreement with him, he called a realtor. Before I knew it, our house was in contract and we were going to double our investment.

This doesn’t mean we haven’t had problems to solve or conflicts to navigate through over the past couple of weeks. Jerry is an aggressive man and he works hard to get things done. When I know I can’t do what he’s asking, I have to let him know. We work it out. That’s what we do when we are committed to one another.

The world often misses the Bible’s teaching on authority in the home. It’s seen as an antiquated idea that the husband is the leader of the wife. Unfortunately, some of the Christian church has made mistakes in teaching the subject of authority in the home. No wonder many Christians, especially in the United States, struggle with the concept of the husband having authority over the wife. However, it is a Bible truth, and there is a blessing with it.

I know how to hear God’s voice in my spirit.

I have experienced God’s leading in my heart.

Yet there have been times where God has decided to lead me by leading my husband.

Jerry knows I am spiritual, I am smart, and I have an inner strength. Yet, when God is speaking to my husband about our family, Jerry asks me to yield my strength and follow his leading as my husband. The yielding of strength requires the quality of meekness.

My husband loves me and cares about me. He values my input. He wants my participation. He’s not a dictator. He doesn’t use threats. When there has been conflict, we work together to resolve it. When there has been a problem, we work together to find a solution. We communicate. We get a plan. Sometimes it takes some compromise to get on the same page about the details. He’s not perfect, he’s human; but He’s God’s leader for me. When I honor that God-given role, God has access to move in our marriage, even though there have been mistakes. God’s anointing flows where there is unity. The unity is more important than the things we’ve done or haven’t done. The unity is necessary for the anointing.

Meekness is a quality we all should have; it’s a characteristic of Christ. It’s also a characteristic Peter mentions for wives, a quality he writes as being “precious in the sight of God.” God made women to be strong and capable, so to be able to follow the leading of a husband does require meekness.

My husband is also my pastor. There have been times when he has had a leading from God about the church that I haven’t. God doesn’t always directly tell me about His leading, but He does indirectly tell me by telling my leader, my pastor. It’s a blessing to have God leading our leaders in our church, but it does require trust. It does require submission.

For people who have been manipulated in their past, trust can be difficult. For people who have been disappointed in the past, submission can be a challenge. Making a commitment or staying faithful can be a struggle. God wants us to know His blessings, and part of that blessing is found in being able to trust God’s delegated authority.

God leads leaders so that our leaders can lead us. It’s important that we honor and receive the gifts God has given to us.

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JESUS in Jerusalem – What a Beautiful Mystery!

I believe there is a blessing in understanding the connection between Jesus and Jerusalem that uncovers an available, abundant life in God as well as an expectation for our future.

First I would like to look at the meaning of Jerusalem, then of Jesus.


Jerusalem has been translated, “Dwelling of Peace” or “City of Peace.” The Hebrew name for Jerusalem includes the word “salem” or “shalom.” The definition of shalom is peace, but also so much more! It also means wholeness, soundness, and completeness. It includes wholeness in health, prosperity and peace, nothing lacking. Not only is Jerusalem a physical location; Jerusalem is illustrative of a position in the sphere of God, a way of abiding in the abundance of His life.

Jerusalem is located on Mount Zion, thus the term “Zion” has become synonymous with Jerusalem. In Scripture, Zion also illustrated a spiritual kingdom, mentioned in both the old and the new testaments. This spiritual kingdom is descriptive of a position in God, a position where we experience life in God, a life that is full, abundant, and overflowing.[1]

Jerusalem is also known as the City of David. King David built his palace on Mount Zion in Jerusalem because of the spring that ran underneath it, waters that led to the pool of Siloam. David was a King, and he was a type and shadow of a coming King, Jesus Christ.


I believe the city of Jerusalem is more than a city; it is symbolic of Christ and salvation for every human being who will receive it.

Jerusalem was a place of peace, or shalom, wholeness. Jesus came to save us. In the Greek, the word “save” is sozo and it means, “to make whole.” Similar to shalom, sozo refers to a wholeness that provided healing, prosperity, peace, freedom, restoration.

In I Peter 2:6 Peter refers to Jesus as being the cornerstone of Zion, that spiritual city, a blessed place to live in God’s presence. It is the city of Jerusalem to the Jew, but it is a position of knowing God for every Christian.

In 2 Samuel 7:12-13 God tells David the Messiah would be his descendent, a son who would establish His kingdom forever. In the Gospels, Jesus was called the “Son of David,” an acknowledgement that He was indeed the Messiah.[2]

I find one of the most significant mentions as the Son of David to be during the Triumphal Entry. Here JESUS enters into JERUSALEM. Here, the Savior enters into God’s city and into the temple, the dwelling place of God. The people called out to Jesus, “Hosanna to the Son of David!” Hosanna means, “Glory to the God who saves us!” The Son of David is riding into the city of David, the place where God’s presence has residence, the place where God’s abundant life is experienced and known.


Psalm 122:6 says we are to pray for the peace of Jerusalem, or the “shalom” of Jerusalem. When we pray for the wholeness of the city, we are also praying for the restoration of the city to the people God gave it to in a covenant, the Jews.

I believe we are also praying for that restoration of relationship with God. David was a man who warred for God and his nation. When it was time to build the temple, God would not let David build it because he was not a king of peace. The next in the family line of Jesus Christ was Solomon, a man of peace, but more than that, a man who represented God’s restoration from sin. We remember that Solomon was one of many of David’s sons, but Solomon was born from a relationship between David and Bathsheba, a relationship that started with adultery, broken covenants, bloodshed, and murder. The peace of Jerusalem is the wholeness of our salvation and forgiveness.

The Bible promises that Jesus, the Prince of Peace, will again enter into Jerusalem, the City of Peace. He will come down on the Mount of Olives and enter Jerusalem and it’s temple, like the Morning Star, from the East. He will rise and He will reign over the nations and over our hearts.

For those who understand end-time prophecy, as Jesus fulfilled Daniel’s prophecy to end week 69 with His first entry into Jerusalem as King, Jesus will fulfill Daniel’s prophecy to end week 70 with a second entry into Jerusalem as King. Prophecy will be fulfilled and PEACE will reign in the earth through our Savior, Jesus Christ, from a place of salvation, Jerusalem, God’s city.

To me, Palm Sunday is a day to celebrate our King, the Prince of Peace, and to celebrate and receive the wholeness of the salvation He brings to us. Hosanna! Glory to the God who saves us!

[1] Hebrews 12:22

[2] Matthew 9:27; 15:22; 20:30; 21:9; 21:5

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